He called me this morning to tell me that he has kidney cancer. It was missed by one doctor that dumbly stated he just needed to remove part of his prostate to heal his massive blood clots that he was passing. He went for a second opinion this afternoon and they found a cancer tumor on his right kidney. They believe it is in Stage 2, but not for certain until they go in there and find out. He's having more scans and tests run and will probably have surgery to remove the cancer and kidney in a couple of weeks.
Even though I barely know most of you, my readers, I am still asking for prayers, white light, positive thoughts, etc. for my dad. He's the only one of my family left that I have a relationship with anymore - because the rest of them are looney and crazy as hell. He's my rock....
Things seem positive, even considering the fact that he has cancer. It's only (ha...only) in Stage 2, they believe it's only on one kidney, they may be able to save part of the kidney.
But then I start researching it and thinking, what if it's not just in Stage 2, what if it has spread into the renal glands, lymph nodes, and what if they have to take the whole kidney? Would it be better to take the entire kidney just in case it decides to come back? What if they take the kidney and cancer has spread to his "good" kidney? Will they have to take that one out too? Would he be on dialysis? Need a transplant? How far on the list will he be for one? Am I a match for his kidney? Could I donate a kidney to him? What happens if I inherit this cancer and I only have one kidney because I donated mine to him?
et cetera.....ad nauseum.....
I'm a pathetic mess, really.
This is my dad with his wife, Linda and the lil dancer girl after one of her recitals.
"I’ll start in the middle: Winter 2006: I’m sitting topless in the oncologist’s office on Valentine’s Day. Cancer is a bitch. It doesn’t give a shit about holidays." — Gail Konop Baker (Cancer Is a Bitch:)
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I will be thinking of you and your daddy!
Us Daddy's Girls need to stick together!
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Michelle
Sending your dad healing thoughts, and sending you lots of strength to face whatever may be.
Take care, stop reading that stuff.
I'm with Mon...stop reading for awhile...let it sink in, LISTEN to your Daddy, to his doctors, and to your heart. You know I'm keeping you in my thoughts and if I prayed in the normal way you both would be at the top of my list...love ya, jen
Thanks all - I will try to stop reading the stuff...it's just hard not to - it's my first instinct. Letting it sit. He had his MRI today. Should know soon about surgery.
Thanks for hearing me out at work Rag....you are a super duper help...I appreciate you.
All positive thoughts and energy to you and your dad. I'm only really close to my dad, too, but I can only imagine how difficult this is. Finger and toes crossed that everything goes well with MRI and surgery.
Thanks Jen! I'm doing the positive thinking thing! :)
Strangers or not, we all feel the same heart-pull when we hear of someone having cancer as it tends to affect us all somewhere down the line. Love your dad up! Healing thoughts for everyone involved!
Thanks so much Laurie - I so do appreciate all the prayers and thoughts for my dad. We have his consultation on surgery on Tuesday morning. Thanks again everyone for your support.
How you holding up?
Oh lady I am so sorry =( My thoughts are with you.
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